Category Archives: Thoughts on Dreams

What Dreams are For: Simple Version

I am writing a book on dreams which will explain everything fully. Keep up with my posts to gain insight. Meanwhile, here is about as basic a description  as possible. Also, read my drop boxes “What If” and “About Dreams”. (This is 99% of “regular” dreams. Lucid dreams, departed loved ones visitations and “higher self” dreams are a different category.)

The Profound Importance of Dreams
Dreams create uncannily accurate, meticulous and explicit feedback, in unique symbolic language, of exactly how we are thinking and feeling about situations, events, and people in our waking life. The dreaming mind never lies. The dreaming self bypasses unconscious resistance to go right to the heart of these thoughts, feelings, and responses. Dreams connect present events to primal triggers, often long forgotten, through selection of symbols that represent our most formative experiences, linking them to the present. Dreams may also be used creatively for guidance and solutions around issues, for inspiration, and even to clarify another dream. Dreams may be one of the most critical tools for growth available to you.

Dream work is invaluable in aiding with clarifying life purpose, releasing resistance to growth, and supporting our ability to manifest what we want from life. Working with your dreams is like contacting the best inner counselor you could find, one who knows everything about you, and can provide solutions for nearly every problem.

 

 

The Great Rule: Anchoring the Dream

A friend posts on Facebook. “I had this dream last night.” They then go on to describe their dream. “There were six penguins that were dancing, suddenly they began to fly. They circled around me and as they flew to the sky, a rainbow appeared. Then I saw my mother”. Everybody starts to weigh in.

“Cool images” says one person, “Penguins mean (whatever)” says another. “Clearly this represents an issue with your mother and freedom” says a third. On and on.

What is wrong with this picture?

I see this at least twice a month and it represents the greatest ignorance that society, even “spiritual people” have about dreams. They are not free floating.

The first great rule of dreams, what you must understand above anything else, is dreams are a commentary on the waking life and what you are thinking, feeling, responding to at the time of the dream. Furthermore, they are most likely triggered by something that happened the day of the dream.

I have worked with dreams for 25 years and very, very few people are aware of this. You might as well say “I felt bad yesterday”, any comments?” Without the conscious life back story, unless a person is extremely psychic, it is virtually impossible to understand the dream’s meaning, With the proper context, the dream becomes far more accessible. Every dream worker worth their salt will emphasize this point.

Dreams express and clarify the waking life. Unless they come from what I call “Higher Self” energies, nothing can appear in a dream that is not internalized in in our daily “regular” existence

Moreover, dreams change only as the waking life changes. This is why recurring dreams are almost exactly similar, until a life change affects them.

Example.

A man has a recurring dream. He is in college but he continually finds himself in a labyrinth. (maze). He is looking for the Student Union where a fire burns at the hearth , bratwursts are plentiful with beverages, and there is warmth and fellowship. But he wanders lost and can never find the way to his friends.

What is this dream about?

The dream changes. It still opens up with him wandering in the labyrinth. But this time, over and over, the way opens up and he finds his way to his friends, the food, the warmth, the fellowship.

Why did the dream change? What is its meaning?

Can we see the absurdity in trying to understand the dream, or any dream, without the context of waking life?

With a quick back story, all becomes clear.

This man’s first marriage was not working out and his emotional life and feelings throughout were similar to feeling trapped in a never ending maze where access to the good feeling and warmth of life (primal associations in college) were always out of reach. When he divorced and remarried, and had a successful second union, the dream kept recurring but reflected his life changes. The warmth, good feeling, sense of release, and pleasure he now felt directly made their presence available in his dream as he no longer felt blocked.

It should be clear from this example that knowing the life story is crucial to understanding the dream.  As important as this is, and it is foundational, it is but one component in being able to know our dreams. But if one does not create this “bridge”, as Gayle Delaney (yoursleepinggenius.com) calls it, then almost all attempts to know the dream’s meaning are fruitless.

It helps to read my drop box, “What IF” but I will post a simpler explanation of what dreams do. I suggest the next time you share a dream, especially on Facebook, if you want any meaningful feedback, you have to share what was happening to you at the time of the dream also. You will be surprised at the leap in knowledge and insight.

But beware of dream dictionaries.

However, that is a tale for another time

 

Why Don’t I Remember My Dreams?

Why There are Problems with Dream Recall in America and How to Deal with It

Sometimes you hear, “I don’t dream”. This is not true. Everybody dreams. Extensive studies over many years show that all people dream many major dreams a night, especially in a period called the “Rapid Eye Movement” (REM) time of sleep. So if we all dream, why don’t many of us remember?

There are three primary reasons for poor dream recall. Research seems to indicate that   more “analytical people”  have slightly less recall than “expressive, creative” people.  We must take these definitions with a grain of salt but a more generalized approach seems to bear this out. Second, many people don’t recall their dreams because of fear of its content or being overwhelmed by the information potentially contained.

But by far, the greatest reason there are so many large numbers of those who don’t recall their dreams is that dreams are not seen to have any worth. And the mind and the self will not give attention to that which it views as “not worthwhile” The great psychic Edgar Cayce said “Americans don’t remember their dreams because of “lack of interest”.

We live in a society that is dominated by rationalism and materialism, all connected to the intellect and senses, not the intuition. “Just the facts, ma’am”, as a  50’s TV detective made famous. Studies have shown that those who believe dreams have value or meaning have greater recall than those who don’t. Certain studies tricked people into greater dream recall by not making it the focus of the research. In cultures where dreams are considered highly significant, dream recall is far greater than here.

If you want to remember your dreams, you first must understand their value and have a desire to recall them. (Read my perspective under “About Dreams” and “What If” on this site.) The universal recommendation is to keep a notebook or tape recorder by your bed side and write down or record your dream(s) a soon as you wake up. This must be done immediately as the dream will go quickly if not caught right away. (Some people will remember the core parts of a dream after this period.)

I will add to  this some additional pointers.

If dream recall has not come easily to you, a person can have fears that one must recall many dreams at once or complete, “feature length” dreams. This can feel overwhelming and cause a shut down. Therefore I usually suggest that to start, one ask (yes ask), one’s dreaming mind to send you a fragment or small dream, preferably before one wakes up. To the conventional mind this sounds absurd, but the dreaming mind has its own intelligence and will usually cooperate.

If a dream comes in the night and you are committed, you must record it or write it down as soon as possible.

I have had many instances where people did not have good dream recall but because they were coming to a workshop on dreams, suddenly had one come to them.

Again, dream recall is primarily related to your sense of the importance and worth of your dreams and how they might assist you in your life. If you come to understand that, much of the “blockage” to dream recall will start to vanish. Then you will need to introduce yourself to and perhaps learn their language. It is natural if one has not worked with dreams (and this is the vast majority of the population), it may feel daunting to try and enter their world, which by itself can block  good recall. However, as I emphasize over and over on this site, once you understand and experience the amazing power and insights, often  astonishing, that dreams can give you, the fear of taking a little time to get to know about them, how they function, or to occasionally work with them, is greatly lessened.

That is why I started this web site- blog. You have an ally and someone you can work with, or at least gain information from. There are others and eventually you might have a sense of how to do it for your self, although usually important dreams need some support from a gifted helper. Just to understand how they work and what they are about is an incredibly important step.

I will post on some of the basic principles about dreams so everyone can stand “at the door” and get a glimpse. Ignorance concerning dreams is nearly total in this culture. I hope to change that.